Archive for the ‘Love Story’ Category

*Before I get to my actual post, I just want to apologize for the lack of posting. I blame this entirely on both work and QWP (quiluetewolfpack.com). The first, because work has suddenly come alive and there is just too much to do and the latter, because Twilight RPG is an addiction I have no intention of stopping Ok, now that that’s out of the way, on to my post…

I got to thinking the other day, “What is it about this Twilight world that gets all of us going?” and I came up with a theory that men may be able to learn from. (Yes, guys, if you stop hating on our sparkling vamps and shirtless wolves, you may actually be able to learn from them!)

We all know that, even though the entire fantasy world created by Stephenie Meyer is so fantastic, the Twilight Series is essentially a love story – a classic love triangle where a choice has to be made. A choice between what’s natural and right and what’s magical and passionate. Now, no matter what team you’re on I am sure you can agree that, for most of us, there are both irresistible and frustrating qualities on either side. I am here to point those out. So let’s start with the irresistible qualities of Edward Cullen.

1)      Confidence, Confidence, Confidence. Edward exudes mystery. He is the bad boy, the one that no girl can crack – He is unattainable. It’s human nature, once something is unattainable, to automatically regard it highly… he becomes god- like the minute Jessica tells Bella that she shouldn’t bother. (Yes, I know, he is HOT, but there are plenty of hot men out there and you can’t tell me that they measure up, now can you?)

2)      Curiosity. Mysteries create fascination. Every single one of us (even the Team Jacob’s) were intrigued by him in the first book (that’s why we read the second one, right?). He was different. He was confusing. It stems back to the age old advise of playing hard to get. Obviously doing this can also back fire but when it is not intentional it tends to have the desired effect. When you have to work for something, it makes it even better.

3)      Overprotective, throw-myself-in-front-of-a-bullet-for-you love. No matter what we say, women like to feel protected. Yes, it is rather old fashioned… but what can I say- old habits die hard.

4)      “You are my world, Bella.” Need I say more? Nothing is more swoon worthy than a man who proclaims his love in an irrational “you-are-my-everything” kind of way. We like to feel as though the one-of-a-kind magical love is out there, and that we have found it. (This stems from fairytales… we do understand this – but it’s hard to teach an old dog new tricks!)

5)      He may be a vampire, but he is a gentleman. He opens your car door, gets his point across without using a single profanity and he will give you his jacket when it’s cold. He is that guy, the one who was hard to get, but is now devoted… to you and only you. (Yes, this does sound crazy… but once again, I blame the fairytales!) It’s all about respect.

Now before the guys start planning to become Edward Cullen replicas, let me tell you some of the things that will not work in reality….

1)      Stalkerish Behaviour. Creeping into our windows at night and watching us sleep, even out of love, is not okay in the real world. This is considered stalking. So is following us around, and watching us, constantly, from a distance.

2)      Lying is never okay – even if you think it is for protective purposes. No matter what, don’t tell us you don’t love us, when you do, and leave the country to protect us, or because you think it’s the right thing to do. I can promise you that, in the real world, there will be no one waiting for you when you get back… especially if there is a shirtless Jacob making us forget about you.

That brings me to our second hero – Jacob Black. Let’s start with what we love about him.

1)      A little bit of boy in a man, is a good thing. Jacob is fun and playful. He knows how to have a good time and is not always serious. (Yes, we do actually like to wrestle and joke around – it’s not always about life or death, and ‘how much do you love me?’)

2)      Vulnerability. Jacob shows his soft side a lot more often than his competitor. He is human with feelings and he is not afraid to show them. (But before you start shedding tears when your girlfriend’s puppy dies, he is not too soft. He has the manly thing down enough to be the one holding you while you cry, dead puppy or bad day at work, it doesn’t matter – Jacob will be there.)

3)      Protector. Once again. We like to feel safe. (Take note – repeating concepts usually denotes importance).

4)      Honesty. Jacob is like an open book. If you ask him, “Does my butt look big in this?” His reply would be simple, “You know there is no right answer to that question, right?” with a big grin and a chuckle. (Once again, playful is good.)

5)      Willing to fight. There is something incredibly sexy about determination. Jacob is willing to fight for her, no matter what. He never gives up, even when it hurts. (Devotion…. anyone heard that before?)

Now, to be fair (because after all, I am Team Jacob) there are some bad things about him too.

1)      Forcing the issue. For the love of god – Please don’t kiss us unless you are sure we want you too. Once again, in reality, this will only earn you a slap across the face (which will actually hurt!). Use your judgment, asking is better, but it’s not great either. Oh, and using manipulation as a fighting tactic – also not the best of ideas in reality.

2)      Persistence. This is a tough one, it has a good and a bad side. As has been said, determination is sexy, but I want to just mention that, in a world where it’s not about life and death, if we make a choice – respect it and leave it at that.

So you see guys were not all that complicated

*Note: I just want to take this opportunity to say that this is not about the book or the teams. As much as I love a good debate, this is an adaptation to real life. I do know that Edward is not a stalker and that Bella breaking her hand on Jake’s face was actually pretty funny

Wow!! What a weekend! It went from being a miserable weekend to the best weekend ever in a matter of hours!

It was a rather busy weekend thugh but because Mr. Perfect and I are playing house it made it seem longer than usual which was awesome! It made me even more sure that I want to move in with him. We just make a really good team, although we still have some communication skills to develop… at least we recognise that and are working on it

You know, he really is Mr. Perfect…. maybe not for everyone but Mr. Perfect for Me We actually have quite a love story! lol. (I love telling this story so seeing as it is my blog, I shall).

So when I was 4 or 5 we moved from Jo’burg to East London as my dad had gotten a good job offer. I was a little tomboy when I was young… not the usual little girl who plays with dolls and tries not to get he dresses wet…. I climbed trees, played in the mud and got hurt often!

Anyhoo…. my sister was already in std. 1 and she made friends with a girl who had a brother the same age as me. Naturally we then decided we should be friends (well he knocked on my door and asked if he could play with me) and from that point we became best friends and because he was a boy and I was a girl we were automatically boyfriend and girlfriend…. I still remember how all the kids used to sing “Stacey and Mr. Perfect sitting in a tree….” (ok so there was no Mr. Perfect but you get the picture!)

Anyway, so we used to hold hands and kiss in the bushes (all very innocent) at school when we were in grade 1 and then in grade 2 my parents got divorced and we moved back to Jo’burg with my mom.

My first birthday after I had left he even sent me a birthday present! I never forgot him although I admit that I didn’t think about it much and I moved on with my life here and never heard from him again…….. until last year!

It was a day just like any other, until my sister phoned me and I just missed the call, I listened to the voice mail she left and all she said was, “you’ll never guess who I heard from today” and immediately I knew…. I don’t know how, to be honest it could have been a lot of peopl, but I knew it was him! I phoned her back, got his number and she just gave me the run down of what happened. Turns out he had found her on skype and had just moved back to East London after living in Alberton (of all places) for about 3 years. He looked for us when he first moved up but obviously it wasn’t the right time.

Now I didn’t believe in the whole soulmate thing before, but I’m battling to think of any other reasons as to how this situation panned out the way it did!

Anyway… I then smsed him (my sis gave me his number) and I didn’t get a response until he phoned me the following morning… hangover and everything… I jumped out of bed and we spoke and caught up! It was so wierd speaking to him again! It felt like I knew him but there was so much to learn.

Well then I signed on to skype and we chatted all day everyday…. I fell in love almost immediately and I hadn’t even seen him yet! It was crazy and I’m not that kind of girl, i’m causios and even cynical at times! But anyway… I just knew somehow that this was it…. that he was the one!

I was a student at the time so we put money together and he flew up for the weekend and it was so amazing!

He went back after that weekend and exactly a month later he had packed up his life and moved back to Jo’burg. (he was planning to move back at the end of the year anyway but he couldn’t wait! )

And I suppose I can say the rest is history

It’s a cool love story hey?? Something to tell the grandchildren!