Archive for August, 2009

It happens every year – summer is just around the corner and I have no intention of running around in my little shorts or bikini looking like this, nor do I have any intention of boiling to death! – so I start obsessing with losing weight!

This year is slightly worse though, because I’m going to Gonubie in the first week of Jan (Mr Perfect is going to be an uncle!!)  Now the problem is that I have to see sister for the first time in 16 years!! I will also be meeting all his friends and all the people I don’t remember from when I used to live there!

When I stayed in Gonubie I was skinny and active and tanned!! (Granted I was only in grade 1!) But still, I don’t want his friends wondering why he packed up and moved to Jo’burg!

So I am now on Operation ‘Get Healthy’ instead of Operation ‘Get Skinny”! Hopefully having the emphasis on changing my lifestyle, going to gym and just getting healthy, rather than dieting and restrictions, will increase the possibility of getting it right!! I will be positive

Mr Perfect is also joining Operation ‘Get Healthy’ – he doesn’t want his friends to see him “fat”! Seriously, he isn’t in the slightest bit fat. When he moved up here I could see his ribs and the fact that he is over 2 meters tall does not help disguise the skinniness!

Since when did men start worrying about these things in any case? Particularly when they are unfounded worries – I thought women only did that!

I suppose “health” has become a focus over the last few years and it’s a good thing – as long as we don’t obsess over it!!

I was taking the William Nicol off ramp this morning  (if you are from Jo’burg and have to drive up this way you will understand how slow this process is!) and I saw these two construction workers (one black guy and one white guy) playing Jackie Chan with a pole which they were obviously supposed to be working with.

I really think men can’t help themselves. They all have a little boy inside of them waiting for a chance to play! (This would be why they love sports and video games) It’s so simple, maybe we should take something out of their books (once in a while) and say “Screw Responsibilities, Let’s Play!!”

It was extremely entertaining to watch the two of them play their little ‘kung-fu’ game. At least all the roadworks up here give us something to do while waiting our turn in the traffic!

Although most people don’t believe in ‘turns’, but that is for an enirely different post

Me and Mr Perfect have this seriously annoying habit of having the same ‘talk’ over and over.

It always starts with:

Me: Why are you grumpy?

Him: I’m not. (In a very grumpy voice)

Me: Well you are acting like you are grumpy!

Him: Well I’m not.

Me: Then why does it feel all weird?

Him: It doesn’t.

By this point I am annoyed because it really does feel weird even if he is succeeding in ignoring it.

After about 10 minutes of this….

Him: Now why are you upset?

Me: Seriously?? You can’t tell.

Him: No need for sarcasm….

This goes on for sometime, and then eventually he will tell me what was bugging him and we’ll have a whole fight and I’ll end up feeling terrible (sometimes there are tears) and then we’ll be all happy again! It’s ridiculous.

I think next time it comes up and he is looking all grumpy and things are feeling weird, I am just going to say, “Can we please just skip to the part where we kiss, make up and we are all happy again?”

It’s not a big deal or anything, I just can’t do repetitive arguments. If you didn’t figure out last time, that you should just tell me what’s wrong then I’m just going to eventually stop worrying or caring.

Why is it that  men tend to do this? I have spoken to my friend and apparently I am not alone in this. They were also having the same ‘talk’ every weekend. Is it because they don’t really know what they are feeling or because they have been taught that feelings are for girls?

Mr Perfect says that “Every time we ‘talk’ about it we get one step closer to solving the problem and that ‘we’ are learning.” I don’t know so much, I think I’m just putting less effort into the ‘talk’ each time and my patience runs out a lot quicker. I think that the solution is that I should just drop it and not let it frustrate me in the first place.

I’ll try that next time. I’ll just leave him to be miserable and continue about my business Maybe he will then get over whatever is making him grumpy and we can avoid the whole thing!

I had such a great weekend. I needed to get away and even though I hardly got any sleep – due to a really unreliable blow up matress and early morning game drives – it was super relaxing!

I took about 300 photos, trying to capture every moment in the Pilansberg National Park. When I looked through them I found this one. I think it captures the experience perfectly.

Just thought I’d share it

I can’t wait to go again. I think Mr Perfect and I are going to go again next month. Just the 2 of us this time though. It is going to be great…. lots of stars, wildlife and cuddling! The perfect combo.